Wounds are personal. Technically, wounds cannot be shared because the personal pain will only be felt by the body bearing the wound. Someone next to you may experience the same incident or accident that causes a wound, but only the individual will be able to articulate the intensity of the pain from the wound. Even the doctor will ask, “How bad is the pain?” Even though you can explain it to him but he cannot feel it.
Wounds happen when someone or something potentially harmful gets close enough to you to cut into your flesh … and sometimes your spirit. Most won’t or don’t acknowledge a wound to the spirit because they are taught that words don't hurt. Do you remember that sticks and stones riddle? How they break bones but words will never hurt you? WRONG! Sometimes it's the words that do the most damage because words embedded deep in your spirit can follow you for your entire life and draft or mutilate your future.
What I share as a writer or what I experienced is not all that exclusive. It happens to everyone. It is meant to connect us as survivors of the hits we took that were intended to cause injury, hurt, damage, cuts, lesions, and offenses. Some wounds were intentional, some by accident. Either way, someone had to have access to what I define as the three circles that make up the essence of you. They are your personal, professional, or spiritual circles of and to your soul. You allow others to have access to your inner self by their words. If you value their words, you will react according to the emotion their words trigger. Many times, others don’t know you internalized their words. So, being mad, staying stuck, and holding grudges only hurts you.
Learn to not only watch what you say but what is said to you. Let’s learn from each other to speak life to each other!
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