Can anything good come from keeping secrets? Are all secrets bad? Some secrets can keep you from the truth. Some secrets can prevent you from moving forward. Some secrets can prevent revealing the real you. Secrets can be used to cover adultery, lies, theft, embezzlement, identity, and so on. In other words, you don’t keep secrets … they keep you.
Family secrets are sometimes used to hide abuse. Family secrets are sometimes used to hide paternity, in attempts to protect the innocent (at least that’s what they think). Most children grow up trying to attach themselves to the one they are told is their father, not knowing the secret sabotaged their connection. On television, DNA tests are taken before millions to verify whether or not the baby’s mother or daddy has slept around. Some ladies think it’s nothing to have several children by several men. Thus, a foundation made of secrets will never be kept from trouble. It’s like a house made of cards … no one knows when they will all come tumbling down.
Where has the value of self-respect gone? For some, sadly enough, the lack of character and integrity has been covered with secrets. There are many opportunities for secrets to be revealed, but the decision to tell the secret can only be made by the secret keeper. Most importantly, the secret keeper needs to know who to tell the secret to and when to tell the secret. When the secret keeper shares the secret, they need to find a safe place for healing.
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